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Feature by Simran Bharadwaj

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A vibrator is a sex toy that is used on certain parts of the body for sexual stimulation. Vibrators come in many forms and sizes, with various vibration patterns that can stimulate the clitoris or the G-spot in vulva owners. Some vibrators are even designed to be water resistant and may be used in baths and swimming pools. The electric vibrator was developed in the second half of the 19th century to relieve pain rather than to stimulate sexual desire. Vibrators for vulva owners became more prevalent in popular culture during the 1980s and 1990s, after the release of shows such as Sex and the City. While the vibrator has revolutionized sexual pleasure for vulva owners, finding a compatible vibrator can be an overwhelming task to navigate. Here are some of the best vibrators in 2022:

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The illustrator and author Mari Andrew wrote a beautiful piece titled "On Being an Extremely Jealous Person," in which she shares that the hardest part of jealousy is the shame we feel around it, thinking we should be better. Experiencing jealousy is a human reaction. It can be uncomfortable to feel but as human beings, we deal with jealousy during different stages of our lives. People might feel jealous in their interpersonal relationships. For example, an individual might feel jealous when they see their partner flirting with someone else. People also experience jealousy in platonic relationships like friendships and family. Now that we've acknowledged that jealousy is universal, let's explore how to cope with it.

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If you are in a relationship, chances are you have had your fair share of arguments. Conflicts in relationships are normal and maybe even healthy. However, there are signs to recognize poor communication as well as tips and tricks to help improve poor communication.  

How to recognize poor communication
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Passive aggressive behavior:
Individuals who express passive aggressive behavior might feel angry or frustrated while exhibiting neutral or pleasant behavior. Partners might drop hints about how they are feeling through passive comments. For example, if an individual is annoyed about a partner constantly being late, they might joke about their partner’s punctuality. 

Bottling up feelings:
Partners might ignore issues that bother them until they pile up resulting in an explosion of all the things that have angered them in the past even if that is not what the present argument is about. You might find yourself acting like everything is okay in an effort to avoid a fight, while still being angry about something from the past.

Aggressive Speech:
There are various forms of aggressive speech including yelling, pointing blame, and controlling a conversation. Partners may use aggressive speech to dominate the conversation and try to prove their point of view. 

If you notice toxic communication patterns that you are exhibiting or that your partner is consistently using, there are methods you can use to avoid these patterns and communicate more effectively and openly. 


How to improve poor communication

“I” Statements:
Using “I” statements can be helpful when trying to express what you are feeling. They can help with avoiding accusatory statements that make your partner feel attacked. For example, “I feel like you are spending too much time with your friends” is less accusatory than “you are always spending time with your friends.”

Active Listening:
In conjunction with “I” statements, active listening can help your partner feel heard while also conveying your point of view. Body language can be key to active listening through looking at your partner instead of turning away or trying to do other things at the same time. Allow for your partner to express their views or concerns without interrupting or jumping in to defend yourself. Create space for both of you to speak. 

Process your feelings:
It is not always the worst thing to step away from a fight and understand how you are feeling first. This can help to avoid saying things that you do not mean in the midst of a heated argument. Allow for your partner to do the same. Taking time to stay in control of your emotions can help with miscommunication. 

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Imago Relationship Therapy is a type of relationship and couples therapy that focuses on relational counseling to turn any conflicts between couples into chances for healing and progress. It was created by Drs. Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt in 1980. The word 'imago' means image in Latin. The idea behind the therapy is to help couples understand what their partner is saying and how their partner might be feeling. Using imago therapy with couples has been beneficial in helping clarify misconceptions, reduce conflict, and rediscover ways to connect with and communicate effectively with one another.