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Navigating Jealousy in Interpersonal Relationships

11/1/2022

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Feature by Nikita Fernandes 
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The illustrator and author Mari Andrew wrote a beautiful piece titled "On Being an Extremely Jealous Person," in which she shares that the hardest part of jealousy is the shame we feel around it, thinking we should be better. Experiencing jealousy is a human reaction. It can be uncomfortable to feel but as human beings, we deal with jealousy during different stages of our lives. People might feel jealous in their interpersonal relationships. For example, an individual might feel jealous when they see their partner flirting with someone else. People also experience jealousy in platonic relationships like friendships and family. Now that we've acknowledged that jealousy is universal, let's explore how to cope with it.
People experiencing jealousy can gently remind themselves that feelings are not permanent. As human beings, we are constantly moving in and out of different feelings. Trainer & Certified Sex Therapist Molly Adler suggests that people should work with jealousy versus against it. For instance, naming the emotions and paying attention to how it feels in our body can be a way to work with this emotion. Therapies such as rational emotive behavior therapy or cognitive reframing can help people restructure their thoughts and feelings around jealousy. Molly Adler also mentions that our attachment style impacts our feelings of jealousy. Thus, people with highly anxious attachment styles might increase the jealousy that people experience in relationships. It is also helpful to ask ourselves: What emotions are under the jealousy? For example, someone might feel jealous of a friend's boyfriend because the person feels brushed aside in their friendship. This can cause an attachment wound that shows up as jealousy.

Adler shared the following ways to navigate jealousy:
  • Get curious about why you are experiencing jealousy without shame or judgement
  • Identify what needs are coming up for you
  • Nourish the attachments in your life
  • Identify the fears are stories that you tell yourself

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Nikita Fernandes is a mental health therapist in New York City. She is currently being trained as a sex therapist through the Modern Sex Therapy Institute.You can contact Nikita at nikita@mwr.nyc and read more blog posts at www.mwr.nyc.
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    Sara S. Schapiro LMHC, PhD
    Providing affordable psychotherapy and individual therapy in NYC. Bringing awareness to mental health related issues and advocating for liberal and liberating sex values.

    Nikita Fernandes, M.A., MHC-LP
    Providing affordable couples and individual therapy in NYC. Integrating culturally sensitive, poly & kink-friendly, and gender-affirming therapy while partaking in advocacy work in the therapy room.

    Simran Bharadwaj, M.A., MHC-LP
    Providing affordable couples and individual therapy in NYC. Bringing awareness to minority mental health issues and culturally competent approaches to therapy.

    ​Shira Keller-Ohana, LMHC
    Providing affordable psychotherapy and couples and family therapy in NYC. Taking an integrative positive approach toward mental health and therapy.

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