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Feature by Nikita Fernandes  A vibrator is a sex toy that is used on certain parts of the body for sexual stimulation. Vibrators come in many forms and sizes, with various vibration patterns that can stimulate the clitoris or the G-spot in vulva owners. Some vibrators are even designed to be water resistant and may be used in baths and swimming pools. The electric vibrator was developed in the second half of the 19th century to relieve pain rather than to stimulate sexual desire. Vibrators for vulva owners became more prevalent in popular culture during the 1980s and 1990s, after the release of shows such as Sex and the City. While the vibrator has revolutionized sexual pleasure for vulva owners, finding a compatible vibrator can be an overwhelming task to navigate. Here are some of the best vibrators in 2022:
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Feature by Nikita Fernandes  Image via Vecteezy The illustrator and author Mari Andrew wrote a beautiful piece titled "On Being an Extremely Jealous Person," in which she shares that the hardest part of jealousy is the shame we feel around it, thinking we should be better. Experiencing jealousy is a human reaction. It can be uncomfortable to feel but as human beings, we deal with jealousy during different stages of our lives. People might feel jealous in their interpersonal relationships. For example, an individual might feel jealous when they see their partner flirting with someone else. People also experience jealousy in platonic relationships like friendships and family. Now that we've acknowledged that jealousy is universal, let's explore how to cope with it.
Feature by Nikita Fernandes  Via Pixabay In her book Milk and Honey, poet Rupi Kaur writes, "How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you." But what does loving yourself look like? I believe that loving ourselves looks like having a secure attachment with ourselves. Let's learn about where the idea of a secure attachment came from.
Back in the 1990's, researchers named John Bolby and Mary Ainsworth came up with attachment theory which spoke to how human beings relationships with their parents later impacted their relationship patterns as adults. Three attachment styles were put forth: secure attachment, anxious attachment and avoidant attachment. For example, if someone grew up with an absentee parent, they are likely to develop an avoidant attachment and ghost potential partners for fear of being rejected. To heal insecure attachments, mental health therapy can help us develop more secure relationships with our potential partners. I'd therefore like to take this one step forward and focus on developing a secure relationship with ourselves. Feature by Nikita Fernandes  Via Pixabay Narrative Therapy has emerged as one of the most powerful types of therapy to support minority communities. It has gained popularity in 2022 along with the rise of movements such as the Black Lives Matter and the focus on mental health after the pandemic. Narrative therapy is relatively new. It was developed in the 1980's by Michael White, an Australian social worker, and David Epston, a family therapist from New Zealand. It gained traction in the United States in the 1990's.
Narrative therapy is a nonpathologizing, empowering and collaborative experience for clients who hold minority identities. The empowering nature of this therapy can be experienced through nudging clients to reframe their past experiences, gain control over their present and shape a better future. Narrative therapy uses prompts to have client reflect over the stories they tell themselves about their life. For example, a therapist might ask a client to write about their past struggles and highlight what helped keep them afloat. This strengths based approach can help remind clients that they are much more resilient than they believe. Feature by Nikita Fernandes  Via Pixabay Mahatma Gandhi writes that “The greatness of humanity is not in being human, but in being humane.” There is power in acknowledging our humanity. To be human means that we make mistakes, say the wrong things, trust people who hurt us and feel emotions deeply. Being human also allows us to feel a great capacity of love, compassion and empathy. A humanistic therapist engages in humanistic therapy when they hold space for their client to sit with their humanness. In sitting with this, we are able to access grace and kindness for ourselves and for our past.
Feature by Nikita Fernandes  Via Pixabay In the safe space of therapy, it can be empowering and healing to use a relational-cultural approach when working with people of color or queer individuals. Relational-cultural theory, and by extension, relational-cultural therapy stems from the work of Jean Baker Miller, M.D. The practice aligned with the feminist and or multicultural movements in psychology while embracing many social justice aspects of these movements.
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