In order to love we need to surrender. The thought of surrendering will strike a chord with in us, because as human beings we are wired to pursue, to achieve, and to push ahead. It seems that to love one would need to pursue love, and surrendering would be antithetical to the pursuit of love. Why do we need to surrender? And what are we surrendering? Most importantly, to whom are we surrendering?
We need to surrender control. To love we have to surrender our need to control. To love, is a leap of faith. If we are determined to always know the outcomes and are not willing to relinquish control, the chance to truly love is inhibited. We need to surrender our self, to another. To love, we need to take a chance with another person. We need to allow another person into our life, to touch, to please, to desire… We need to surrender to our own body. Desire is suffocated by restraint. To love, we need to surrender to the excitement and yearning of our body. We need to allow our body to be filled with the electricity that the other awakens in us.
Surrendering is frightening, to love is frightening, therefore, loving someone is the ultimate gift.
Sara Schapiro-Halberstam, LMHC