Delayed ejaculation is defined in the DSM V as “marked delay or absence of ejaculation”. People often seek sex therapy in order to be able to ejaculate more frequently. This disorder can be physical, in that case a medical doctor would be involved in the treatment; or it can be emotional, in that case a mental health professional will provide the treatment.
Delayed ejaculation can also be man-made (no pun intended) which is referred to as the death grip. The death grip is when the nerve-endings of the penis become desensitized because of masturbation habits. These habits would include a very tight grip, not using a lubricant, and a very quick and rough hand motion. None of these habits mimic what a vagina and vaginal intercourse feels like. Therefore, the penis does not get stimulated enough during vaginal intercourse which in turn delays or inhibits orgasm. Additionally, when using the same masturbation technique at all times, the brain becomes wired to only recognize those behaviors. Switching techniques ensures that your brain does not become accustomed to only one form of stimulation. Read the article about Masturbation Death Grip to learn some excellent techniques on how to manage man-made delayed ejaculation.
Sara Schapiro-Halberstam, LMHC